Tantric cockwork and specifically the Deepstroke sequence are very powerful. Frequently when first experiencing this practice the receiver’s body will shake and their hands and jaw muscles will tense and contract. It can be a strange sensation. Its cause is a literal battle between the body and the mind. The body is trying to hold onto the armor it has built; armor in the form of tension. And at the same time the mind is telling the body to let go. This tug of war of opposing messages of “hold tight and protect” versus “relax and open” causes the spasms and the shaking. Once it is explained to the receiver what is happening frequently the “relax and open” message overcomes the “hold tight and protect” pattern. But sometimes it takes a little more. I usually encourage guys to shake out their hands, to intentionally squeeze and relax their face, and to howl like a wolf baying at the moon. All of these tend to help break the old pattern of “hold tight and protect,” and allow the receiver to truly ride the waves of the new experience. Bottom line, from the perspective of the giver, you know you are moving lots of energy when the receiver’s body begins to shake. This is a signal you are being effective and that you are doing an awesome job. This, and the occasional “holy fuck” from the receiver are definitely good signs.✌️
I’ve been teaching this bud in the ways of Tantric Bodywork. Here he is working on me for his final exam. In another scene he gets me off for extra credit. That scene is coming soon.✌️
I always coach guys to focus on the face of the dude you are edging with. A thousand words are communicated by his expressions. You can usually tell if he is getting close even before he tells you simply by the look in his eyes. Tantric Edging, as are all things Tantric, is about connecting. One of the best ways to connect is having the courage to look in each other’s eyes. Christian does this so beautifully.✌️
Not every orgasm is going to be full body; meaning experienced from your cock to your head, and from your cock to your toes. But by approaching sex and sexual energy from a Tantric perspective; with a mindful understanding and respect for the power of this energy, odds are greatly increased that your release will be mind-blowing and toe curling.✌️
I wanted to share one of my favorite Christian de la Huerta writings with you guys. It speaks deeply to the work and practices we are exploring together:
“Erotic energy is powerful, sacred, and universal. It is creative and transformative. It is the same as the universal forces of creation, which cause flowers to bloom in sensual displays of color, texture, and scent; which cause volcanos to erupt and generate new land masses, and which give birth to new, unimaginable star systems. We live in a sexual universe.”
You hear that sound? That’s my mind being blown. 💥
Took to heart this request from you guys and guided an aspiring Tantric Bodywork bud through the Deepstroke Sequence on my cock. I’ll share the video soon. Gotta say it was indeed fun to be on the receiving end of this practice. ✌️
In an article in “Queer Dharma,” San Franciscan Gay Buddhist author Clint Seiter describes the difference between Intimate Sex and Archetypal Sex. Seiter describes Intimate Sex as the kind idealized and sought after by most members of society. It is the kind of sex that has been modeled for us by straight culture. Its foundation is the need/search for love in all sexual encounters. Archetypal Sex on the other hand “draws strength primarily from fantasy, where the partner is actually a vessel for something bigger, the ideal of The Sacred Masculine. In this type of sex we are each enacting a role-an archetype- such as The Daddy, The Son, The Worshipped, The Worshipper etc. Archetypal Sex seeks to transcend our every day existence. It guides us toward connecting and identifying with a greater concept than our personal selves. Each partner loses their own identity and transforms into an ideal of The Sacred Masculine. When successful, Archetypal Sex leads to the dissolution of both partner’s egos. It is a profound act of worship and has the ability to transcend commonplace intimate love and carry us into the realm of love for life itself. So grab a buddy. Identify your roles. And play your parts well, fellas.🔥
Deepstroke Demo: (part 3 of 4) with Griffin Barrows
In this segment of the Deepstroke sequence we explore Crowning, Juicing, and Rope Shake. In addition to explaining the three strokes we also get into a conversation about cum retention, multiple hand positions for each stroke, and the power of nipple play to help draw the vibe from your cock and balls up the spine in order to spread it throughout the body for a more all encompassing edge that resonates from the top of your head to the soles of your feet. Which stroke in this sequence was Griffin’s favorite? You be the judge, fellas. 🔥
Collaborated with this beautiful man the other day. We created some beautiful content for our community of men. I’m looking forward to sharing it with you guys.✌️
Our culture is just beginning to develop a healthy attitude toward sex and sexuality. And most of us, gay, straight, or bi, are in serious need of sex education and open, honest, non-judgemental discussions about sex. In a surprising and unintentional way I think OF’s move to ban porn a few weeks ago is actually going to help promote healthier attitudes toward sex and sex work in particular. I read a great deal of media coverage surrounding OF’s initial decision, and the vast majority of the news stories portrayed sex workers in a positive, sympathetic light. I’m sure there were some stories out there that blamed sex workers for their fate. But it honestly seemed like the overall take was that sex workers are human, and sex work is a legitimate way to earn a living. So from the perspective of the general public I think it was a good education that will, in the long run, potentially change minds about what sex work actually is and the important role it plays in society. Sexuality encompasses and infuses all aspects of being human. It is an integral part of who we are and how we express ourselves in the world. A good question, initially posed by Bob Barzan, to always ask yourself about any behavior, sexual or not is: Is a given behavior making you a better, more compassionate, more fulfilled human being? If it is, do more of it. If it isn’t, re-evaluate the behavior. Another good question to gauge the wisdom of a given behavior was posed by Joseph Kramer: Energetically, do you feel fragmented afterwards, or do you feel whole?✌️
Check out this beautiful hand-carved Balinese Lingam I picked up in Portland. I have been wanting an icon like this for my studio’s altar. The term “Lingam” is a Sanskrit word meaning “shaft or pillar of light.” It represents the power of fertility and creation. There are many Gods throughout history including Pan, Min, Shiva, Priapus, Liber, and Kokopelli that are often depicted with oversized, erect penises. This represents the penis’ ability to ejaculate seed and fertilize life in its many forms. Cultures spanning the entire planet have recognized and honored the creative, regenerative power of cock. The second pic is just me having some fun with this beautiful art piece. It is important to approach the sacred not only with seriousness, but also with humor, especially when it comes to sexuality. Just ask Pan.✌️
I remember when I was a kid I was always seeking out other guy friends. Not to play sports, or to dig in the dirt. I wanted other guy friends to hang out with, to build forts in the woods with, and to jerk off with. That urge to bond with other guys was there in me from a very early age. And in my mind the ultimate expression of that bond would have been to have the experience of pulling out our dicks and stroking ourselves and then stroking each other.
I think this is actually pretty common among men. Dudes are fascinated by penises; their own and others. Seeing up close and touching another’s dick is a special kind of intimacy. It is a bonding experience that only two dudes can share.
The idea of having another guy show me how he worked his cock seemed like a secret window into his private ritual. I wanted to observe and learn. And then I wanted him to reach for my cock and work me the same way he was working his.
As an adult I came to the obvious realization that masturbation is sex with yourself, and mutual masturbation is sex with yourself with other guys, who are also having sex with themselves. So in this convoluted way, I convinced myself that mutual masturbation can be an ideal guilt-free extracurricular activity when in a relationship. In my mind there was an implicit limit of physical intimacy drawn in the sand in my many post work out shower stroke sessions at the gym.
This is all very unique to gay men. We are super fortunate. Whenever I’ve talked to my straight friends about having stroke buddies most shake their heads in amused disbelief (and envy) at the permeability of sex and friendship among gay men. The challenges of long-term, sexual friendships between men and women more or less sums up all 10 seasons of Friends, and yet queer people are able to fill their movie nights and housewarmings with old hookups all the time.
I think this speaks to the bonding effect of mutual masturbation. It is a silent acknowledgement that what you do in secret I also do in secret and doing it together we share a very private part of ourselves.
And finally, masturbating with other guys takes away much of our culture’s shame and embarrassment about this universal practice. Even as gay men we carry shame. We grew up in the same culture and received many of the same messages and beliefs as everyone else. To overcome these beliefs you cannot think your way out from underneath them; you have to physically experience the opposite of each belief; you have to experience the taboo itself in order to form a counterbalance in your body and mind. Masturbation is one of the first taboos our culture teaches us. Mutual masturbation is the counterbalance and cure for this nonsensical taboo.✌️
Finished up my work in Portland with @johnnymoonman We created some really gorgeous content for you guys. Portland has some amazing, professional, open- hearted sex workers. I’m definitely going to create new content down here several times a year. 💙
It was a blast coaching Greg and Colton through the Deepstroke sequence in Portland. These guys are such warm-hearted, beautiful men, and a very connected couple. We filmed for over three hours together. So there’s lots of powerful content coming soon.✌️
Crazy news from OF, huh? This week has been an emotional rollercoaster for so many. Got in the car this morning and hit the road with my massage table. It was a good way to clear my head and heart. I’m in Portland collaborating on some new content for you guys. Been looking forward to connecting with the PDX dudes. ✌️
This week has been a challenging time for sex workers around the world who have depended on OF to provide a safe, professional space to share their content. In life we have very little control over our outer circumstances. The only thing we truly have control over is our reaction to life events. As gay men a pivotal part of our identity is solidified when we come out. But the work does not end there. The next step in our personal evolution occurs when we come in; when we turn our attention inward and truly begin to examine our thoughts and emotions. Our inner world creates our outer world. If our mind is pre-occupied with thoughts of fear and scarcity, we will see a world of danger and want. If on the other hand we have practiced to focus the mind on abundance and gratitude then this is the kind of world we will experience. When presented with challenges instead of letting them paralyze us we can view them as opportunities for something better to come along. So with this in mind, just like the beautiful dude in the video, I am practicing release. I no longer believe that OF is my only opportunity to share my work on a global scale. Over the next several months I am going to be migrating my content over to JFF. This said, I am going to maintain my presence on OF with a focus on meditation and Yoga and self-help practices. Most of it will be presented with me and other guys wearing jocks. So the content will still be vibing. But being mindful of the new guidelines. All of my edging and cathartic release work will be found on my new JFF account. The transition to these dual and complimentary accounts will take place over the next several months. I will continue to post all of my content on OF as usual until I have migrated enough content over to JFF. At that point I will let all of you know. Until then I ask for your patience and continued support during this transition. Change is challenging, but in the physical world it is the one and only constant. So each time we are confronted with a shift it is our opportunity to turn inward and create something even better. ✌️
With all the media coverage about the Onlyfans announcement I think there are a few things to keep in mind. First, OF has yet to reach out to its Creators. So at the time of this writing we actually have no idea what the new guidelines are going to be. Second, I will continue posting my content on OF until, and if it becomes impossible to do so. At the same time I am exploring other sites to potentially migrate my content over to if this becomes necessary. I will absolutely keep all of you informed during each step of this process. Third, please continue to support the OF Creators that you love. Many Creators have children and families and their OF income keeps a roof over their head and food on the table. And finally, please keep OF’s decision in perspective. What I mean by this is we all need to count our blessings every day and find gratitude wherever we can. If you are not living in Afghanistan or Haiti right now, be grateful. If you don’t have COVID, be grateful. If you and your family and friends are healthy and have shelter and food and warmth, be grateful. Yes, what OF is potentially doing sucks. And the work it is going to take to migrate content over to a new site sucks. And having to register with a new site and learn their interface sucks. But in the grand scheme of things, in the vast scope of our lives, this misguided move by OF is not worth getting worked up about. This is a challenge with many solutions.✌️
Throughout history, across many cultures and epochs queer humans have assumed the role of shamans, medicine people, mediators, peacemakers, spiritual teachers, priests, and sacred sex workers. On the African continent, among the Zulu there were spiritual mediums known as the Isangoma. In ancient Mesopotamia, the Kalbu were gender variant priests. In Canaan, there was the Qedeshim, who used same sex sexual practices to elevate states of consciousness. Some believe Joseph from the technicolor dreamcoat fame was a Qedeshim. No wonder his brothers didn’t understand him. In Ancient Greece and Rome there was the Emperor Hadrian and his lover Antonious. There was also Aphrodite who is considered the patron of gay men. And of course, Alexander the Great who besides for his conquests on the battlefield was said to enjoy appearing in public dressed as Diana, the Amazonian warrior priestess. In ancient Russia there were the deeply respected Enarees who it is said used cannabis in their temple rituals. The ancient Celts honored storytellers and soothsayers known as Filidh. In ancient China there was the Shih-Niang, a group of gender-variant shamans. In India to this day, the Hijras are transgendered conveyors of magical powers. In Polynesia the Hawaiian Mahu are hula dancing healers. And in North America there is the Berdache, or Two Spirit, very well-respected members of the tribe with the gift of prophecy, intelligence, and spiritual protection. So the importance of queer folk in the life of societies and cultures didn’t begin with us moving into crappy parts of town and elevating the property values. We’ve been leaders all along.✌️
Grab a bud. Lay him down on the massage table. Lube him up and stroke along with this demo. Then trade places. Use your time together to connect and cultivate vibe.✌️
One of the events I host is called, “Tantra Edge.” We begin this practice with about 30 minutes of jockstrap Yoga to warm up our bodies and to start to get some sexual vibe flowing. Then everyone pairs up for some guided partner energy work focusing on forging a connection between our heart and cock. During the partner work, I ask each man to find something to love about their partner. It can be a physical attribute like their eyes, or chest, or cock. It can be their smell. It can be their smile. Or it can be non-physical like their energy, or the sound of their breath. Each guy keeps what they love about the other to themself. They don’t share it. Yet. Then we set up a circle of chairs. Half the group sits down in the chairs, the other half sit on stools next to each chair. The guys on the stools are the givers, the guys in the chairs are receivers. Each giver enjoys about 10 minutes with each receiver taking them through the Deepstroke sequence. And then all of the givers rotate on to the next receiver. This continues until the givers have gone around the entire circle. Then the roles are reversed. At the very end all of the guys find their original partner and share what it was they loved about the other. The practice is to receive the compliment whole-heartedly, without laughing it off or making excuses (like “nah, it’s just good lighting”). The practice is to take a deep breath, take in the kind words, and simply say, “thank you.” When we are awash with sexual/creative energy (as everyone is after the edging), and someone shares a kindness with us, it blows open our heart and feeds our soul.💙🔥💙
I’ve received a lot of positive feedback from you guys about how these simple, short guided meditations are helping you either deepen your current understanding of meditation, or are giving you the tools and inspiration to finally start that meditation practice you’ve always wanted to. So sit down, put your phone on “do not disturb,” and follow along, fellas.✌️
I always encourage guys who are interested in the practice of Tantric Bodywork to invest in a massage table. The brand I use at my studio is Strong Lite. I don’t get any kind of kick back from them. They are just good, sturdy tables and are reasonably priced. I own 10 of them! There is something very intimate about inviting someone over for a massage exchange. So use this video as a guide. Take turns on the table. Look in each other’s eyes and let each other know when you are getting close. Ride the edge. Build the vibe. Share the love!💙
Deepstroke Demo with Cathartic Release featuring JJ Jakobs
Doing Tantric Bodywork always reminds me of this quote by George Leonard. I’m not sure if he practiced Tantra. But his words definitely leave one to assume so.✌️
“Yes, it’s true that the senses can lead you astray and the pursuit of pleasure can get you in trouble. Sensual pleasure needs the guidance of practical and ethical judgement. But you won’t gain good health by repeatedly vetoing the vote of the senses and denigrating the wisdom of the body. Nature was neither capricious nor perverted in making sure that, other things being equal, what feels good is good for you.”
