Subscriber Question 💕 from my "ASK ME ANYTHING" post yesterd..

Subscriber Question 💕 from my "ASK ME ANYTHING" post yesterday...​ ​ Question from @alicboxgud1 “I’m trying to get my wife in to anal more. What tips can you give for beginners? I've tried all kinds of lubes, anal ease, plugs and beads. She still quits after I get the tip in”​ ​ Okay so… Bare in mind that this is just my experience, I’m not necessarily saying your partner should do the same I can only tell you what has worked for me… ​ ​ When it comes to getting used to anal and making it enjoyable for the person taking it, It’s all about being able to let your ass relax. Even if you start with something super small like a finger, if your partner can’t relax then it’s still going to be painful. Although it can feel a little uncomfortable when you first ever have that feeling of a full dick in your ass, anal shouldn’t be painful. ​ ​ So thats where I would say you need to start, make sure you’re doing everything you need to do to help your partner relax. ​ ​ I know that might not sound as exciting as rough anal from all these different positions and all the adventurous stuff but if you build up slowly and your partner can relax its going to be an enjoyable experience and I found that as soon as I realised how enjoyable anal can be, thats when I wanted to work my way up to doing the freakier stuff. ​ ​ What you don’t want is to feel like partner is just enduring the whole experience. Thats no fun for anyone and it’s just going to make anal harder.​ ​ So with that in mind, here are the things I’ve found helped me relax and helped me really enjoy anal when I was just starting out…​ ​ ✨Foreplay! I love getting my ass and pussy eaten so doing stuff like that really helped get me super turned on beforehand and helped me really relax. You’ll know your partner better than I do so do what you know they like to get them really turned on first and make it about them. Again, I know that might not sound exciting for some but trust me, if you get them really enjoying anal like I do it will be worth it in the long run!​ ​ ✨Having a glass of wine or two really helped me relax so if your partner drinks, that could be helpful, at least it was for me the first few times. I don’t do it now but I’d had a few the first time he fucked my ass properly so it might help.​ ​ ✨Starting with something small like fingers or plugs. I found that if I wore a plug for a little while Jax ate my pussy, that helped me prepare my asshole a little. ​ ​ ✨Me being in control to start! I also found when I was starting out it was way easier for me to put toys in my own ass than if Jax was to do it for me. I trust Jax 100% but its just different when I have hold of the toy, I know where everything is, I know the pressure, I know when to push or pull out, etc. Now I’ve trained loads Jax can take full control of the toys and its fine, I can relax but I had to work up to that. So having your partner in control of the anal play at first and incorporating that into your foreplay might help them relax more.​ ​ ✨Another thing is not worrying about having a potential accident. I was always a little anxious about that and having that in the back of your mind is gonna stress you out and stop you from being able to full relax. When Jax told me he didn’t care and wasn’t worried about it i stopped worrying about it and that helped me fully relax making it way more enjoyable. And we havent had any crazy messy accidents yet. ​ ​ Outside of that, I know I’m repeating myself but I can’t stress enough how the key is relaxing. It really is a mind set thing and if your partner is anxious or kind of already thinking “this isn’t going to work” then it probably isn’t and even if you do get it in with that mindset, its likely not going to be enjoyable. ​ ​ Again, this is just my experience but I felt like once I got the full thing in the first time and got past the initial uncomfortable part, it felt nice and it made me feel like “ah this is actually really nice and not bad at all”. Don’t get me wrong it didn’t feel amazing like it does now, I think that comes from practice and being able to relax more now but it wasn’t painful and after that first time getting the full thing in and removing the anxiety that is going to be super painful, I was able to relax and start to really enjoying it.​ ​ And to also answer @u19558683 question “what kind of lube do you use?”​ ​ I just use water based lube. We got some silicone based lube and some numbing kind of lube but I don’t like them, they don’t feel great for me personally and they don’t help either in my opinion. Water based just feels the most natural and does the trick perfect for me.​ ​ I hope this helps a little 💕​ ​ If you want your question answered, just comment on my 💕ASK ME ANYTHING POST💕 and I will get to it! Also let me know if it does and like the post to let me know if you want more or you like this kind of thing x